Managing Finances as a Couple
Congratulations! Whether you just got engaged, you’ve decided to move in together, or you’re taking next steps as a couple, this is an exciting time in your life. While planning a future together can be thrilling, there is one rather unromantic topic that should be discussed: your credit and finances.Here are five tips to help you navigate the world of "yours, mine, and ours." By understanding how credit works, you can build a stronger future together, no matter what life throws at you.
There’s No Such Thing as a "Joint" Credit Report
One of the biggest misunderstandings couples have is thinking that once they get married, their credit reports merge into one. This isn’t true. Your credit history is yours alone. It is tied to your Social Security number. Even after you say "I do," you will maintain your own separate credit reports and credit scores.
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Pull your credit reports and discuss them together without judgment. This helps you see where you stand so you can fix any errors or pay down debt before making future plans.
A Name Change Doesn’t Wipe Your Slate Clean
For those choosing to change their last name after marriage, it can feel like a fresh start. You get a new driver's license and a new signature. You might wonder: Will changing my name wipe my slate clean?
The answer is no. Changing your name does not erase your financial history. Your old credit history will follow you to your new name. When you update your name with the Social Security Administration and your creditors, that information is reported to the three nationwide credit reporting agencies (including Equifax). Your new name simply gets added to your existing credit file. (So any late payments from college? They are still there!)
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Update your creditors (banks, credit card companies, student loan lenders) immediately after legally changing your name. This ensures your credit report stays accurate.
Understand the Details about Joint Banking Accounts
Once you are living together, it might make sense to share some (or all) expenses. You may decide to open a joint checking account for rent or a joint credit card for furniture. This is where your credit histories actually do link up.
When you open a joint account, or if you co-sign a loan for your partner, that specific account appears on both of your credit reports.
- The Good: If you both pay the bills on time, it can help build credit for both of you.
- The Bad: If one person misses a payment or maxes out the credit card, it could hurt both of your credit profiles.
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Sharing an account means sharing the responsibility and the risk. Start small. You don’t have to merge everything at once. For example, you can open just one joint checking account for shared household bills (like groceries and utilities).
Talk Openly About Your Finances Sooner Rather than Later
The best way to avoid fights about money is to talk about it before it becomes a problem. Financial stress is one of the leading causes of relationship trouble, but you can get ahead of it.
Try scheduling a regular "Money Talk Date." Do something fun together while discussing your financial plans. (Hint: It’s not a time to scold each other for buying too much coffee!)
- Review your budget.
- Check your savings goals (like that vacation or new house).
- Discuss any upcoming large expenses.
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By making this discussion a regular, relaxed activity, you take the awkwardness out of the conversation.
Plan for the Reality of "What If"
No one enters a marriage or a shared living situation thinking it will end. However, looking at the facts is a smart financial move. If a breakup or divorce does happen, your finances can get messy very quickly.
A common myth is that a divorce decree (the legal document ending a marriage) overrides your contracts with the bank. It does not.
If a judge orders your ex-spouse to pay off the joint credit card debt, and your ex stops making payments, the lender can, and will, come to you for the payment. The lender was not part of your divorce agreement. If you separate, aim to pay off and close joint accounts immediately, or refinance loans (like a car or house) into just one person’s name. This separates your financial connection in the future.
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Consider keeping at least one credit card or bank account in your own name. This ensures you always have access to funds to build your own credit history.
Honesty is the Best Policy
Sharing your life with someone is a wonderful adventure. While sharing your finances can be complex, it doesn't have to cause concern.
Remember these key takeaways:
- Your credit reports stay separate.
- Joint accounts affect both of you.
- Communication prevents confusion.
For more information about credit and finances, check out our Equifax Learn video series on YouTube.
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